Shame, Pride, and the Deprivation of Love

In a world searching for identity, many find themselves caught between two extremes: shame and pride. These are not mere emotions but deep-seated responses to a fundamental deprivation of Agape, the unconditional, life-giving love of God. On one end, shame convinces people they are unworthy and broken beyond repair. On the other, pride masquerades as empowerment, urging people to claim their woundedness as their identity. The LGBT movement, at its core, operates on this extreme end of pride—reacting against shame, yet unknowingly reinforcing the very deprivation that caused it. Shame: The Lie That We Are Unworthy Shame is a powerful force. It tells a person that they are flawed at their very core, unworthy of love and acceptance. Many who struggle with their identity—especially in areas of sexuality—have experienced deep wounds, often from childhood. Rejection, abandonment, abuse, or the absence of affirmation can leave a person with a distorted self-image, believing that they are ...