Faith is not knowledge!

Faith is not the human act of merely consenting to theological knowldge but it is the divine act of submitting both our Intellect and Will to God's revelation. If the Intellect alone is employed, knowledge remains simply as true and good life-giving information. It does not transform our life nor does it give life. Faith without action is dead. Jam 2:26 Will is the faculty of the soul which seeks to love that which is known. And 'loving' is not simply liking the information but the act of becoming what we have come to know. In other words loving is to freely act upon the information in such a way that knowledge becomes a living experience. If I come to know that in order to sustain my life I must drink water and if I do not act on this information and drink water, this knowledge does not do me any good.  In order for my faith to be active and alive, my Will has to be in harmony with the Intellect. It also means both my Intellect and Will should be surrendered to God. The di

The Second Honeymoon

You have entered into your married life with lots of colourful dreams, hoping for a lifetime of unending bliss. But things aren't the way you imagined. Hope is faded, dreams turned pale and the basket is lost somewhere in the attic. You are pulling on, hoping someday at least your kids will grow up and fulfil some of your left over dreams. Or you are secretly married your work, hobbies or business craving some fulfilment. You feel your partner is partly if not fully responsible for this situation. You feel you married the wrong person. There is a big vacuum within and you are tired of pretending.  Life has been unfair to you and you want to quit. You feel you deserve more. Yes you do.

Is it possible to restore your marriage? Answer is a resounding yes! Because the success of marriage does not depend on the goodness of the individuals involved. "What is impossible for man is possible for God"  Luke 18:27

Marriage is not a human arrangement but God's own idea. God instituted marriage so that through it we might become holy. Marriage is a covenant based on the promise 'to love unconditionally'.  It is a covenant based on 'your promise' to your spouse whom you have 'chosen in freedom' to love as God loves.

How does God love?  If we analyse the following passages we will know how.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16. 

Jesus who, existing in the form of God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to death—even death on a cross. Philippians 2:6-11

Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are My friends if you do what I command you. John 15:14

Divine love is the basis for human love. To Love is to become a sincere gift of self by willing the good of the other person. It is to become a self gift. God made a gift of self and died on the cross for us - willing our good. He did not count the cost. His self donating act of love was independent of our response to him. St Paul says "Christ died for us while we were still sinners" Romans 5:8

Love is not the good feeling I have for my spouse. Neither is it the attraction that I have for my spouse. Love is an act of will. It is a conscious self less act willing the good of my spouse. We must first love independent of the attraction and feeling. When we begin to love we will have in us genuine feelings and attraction based on truth which is unlike the initial attraction and feeling which was based on mere fantasy. Bible says "We love, because He first loved us." 1 John 4:19.  Just as Christ who initiated love, I must be the one to make an act of love first. Remember Marriage is a promise to love the spouse you chose despite all the odds. Your spouse was your choice. You chose him/her in total freedom. God accepted and blessed the 'Yes' you publicly pronounced to him/her at the alter in the presence of the parish priest, the witnesses, family members, friends and well wishers. For God, His word are unchanging. He expects the same from his children too for He said "Let your Yes be Yes and No be No". Mathew 5:37.

Marriage is a project of a life time. Its success cannot be measured assessing the compatibility of the couple. Your marriage grows and matures in the measure of the effort you put to love your spouse expecting nothing in return. What we must seek from our marriage is not happiness but Holiness. Marriages that seek happiness turn out to be selfish and marriages that seek holiness turn out be a foretaste of heaven.

The key to success in marriage is the dependance on the sacramental grace available. Man and women, weak as we are, cannot love as God loves without God's help. Thats why Jesus raised marriage to the order of a sacrament. When a baptised man and women enters into the sacrament of marriage there is abundant Grace available. We grow and mature in marriage by tapping into this abundant grace. This is 'the way' we can and should reclaim our marriage and relive those honeymoon days. To build a healthy marriage, we must to pay the price. By building a healthy and joyful marriage you are not only helping your life but also contributing unimaginably to the welfare generations after you. Unmended, unresolved, broken marriages leave you and your children broken and unresolved so do the generations that follow.


  1. Very beautiful article . Felt like God was speaking to me

  2. Thank you cheta for these lovely Articles. So helpful to know and prepare for marriage.


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